2019 is here and you know what that means- it’s time to make some fresh new years resolutions. If you’re looking to find that special someone, this is the year to make it happen. Instead of the usual empty promises, here are some real and realistic dating resolutions that you can make to find your one.
1. Speak Your Dating Resolutions Into Existence
Start off the new year with some confidence. Instead of saying things such as “I think,” say “I will.”
I will get a girlfriend/boyfriend.
I will finally get that cute cashiers number.
I will succeed.
Stop giving yourself an excuse with pussy footed statements and go all in. Say what you want out loud, and say you’re going to do it. It’s happening. Man up, and start the year off strong. Speak your dreams into reality.
2. Count by 1’s
Of course it’s one thing to say that you’re going to do something, but it’s another to actually do it. New years resolutions often fall apart because we make phenomenal promises without thinking about the phenomenal work involved. It’s very easy to get discouraged and give up a few weeks in when the end isn’t in sight. A way to combat this is to simplify your goals and count by 1’s.
Take things small and one at a time. Real results are earned gradually, not all at once. Instead of starting your vision with “find a significant other,” start small with things like “have one good conversation” or “go on one fun date.”
3. Lower Your Standards
It’s normal to have standards and to desire certain characteristics in people. However if you’ve been single for a long ass time, perhaps you should take a look at the standards that you’ve been placing on your perspective partners. If you’re constantly looking for Mr. or Miss Perfect but can’t seem to find them, realize it’s because they don’t exist.
Try lowering your standards, and getting rid of some dating “requirements” that probably don’t really matter that much. Is a 5’11 guy really that different from 6’0? Does she really need to be beautiful, shorter than you, a certain hair color, smart, funny, AND know how to cook?
4. Give People a Chance
It’s easy to write people off based on your first impressions, but realize that doing that will only make dating harder. You’re limiting yourself every time you cross someone off without giving them a real chance. It’s impossible for people to get to know the real you in just a few minutes, days, or even weeks. How can you expect to do the same for others? By giving others chances, you’ll end up increasing your own.
5. Stop Lying About Your Time
“Oh I want to date, but I just don’t have the time”
If this is you, you need to cut that nonsense out right now. Complaining about lack of time is one of the most common excuses that single people hide behind. The fact of the matter is this; no matter what your situation is, there has to be a pretty equivalent person to you somewhere out there in the world. The only difference is, that person is in a relationship while you’re not.
We always say that we have no time, when the truth is we simply waste our time. Think about all those “short” Youtube videos, Netflix episodes, and Instagram checking sessions that you do and watch everyday. They may not seem like much, but those few minutes here and there can add up to hours throughout a week.
If finding a partner is truly important to you, you can find the time to make it happen. Stop lying about your time, cut out the unnecessary things, and go to work.