Man it’s been a while since I’ve last posted on this blog. Time really flies by when you keep on telling yourself that you’ll do something “next week”, week after week. Dating endeavors aside, a lot of my time has been taken up recently by two major projects. The first project is something I call, “trying not to get fired at my full time job.” The second is an attempt at a New Year’s resolution that I’ve been making for the last 10 years or so, trying to get a six pack.
Trying to get a six pack is hard, as is trying to find love. There’s always people around you that seem to do it with ease, and it leaves you wondering what they’re doing that you aren’t. We look to Google to find that one definitive answer, that one tip and trick that’ll push things over the edge.
Throughout my six pack journey, I’ve come across many pieces of advice. I’ve read that abs are made in the kitchen, and it’s dieting that ultimately matters. I’ve watched videos that showcase planking as the secret exercise. Cardio. A specific stomach crunch that brings supreme results. The list really goes on and on. I’ve always been focused on looking out for that one specific answer for my ultimate vanity goal.
There’s been two times in my life where I genuinely made good progress. By good progress, I mean a number of abdominal packs that are actually greater than one. It was around June of last year, and right now. Granted, my number of packs are currently a lot closer to 1 than they are to 6, but it’s still something.
I’ve managed to achieve these results not by utilizing one ultimate solution, but rather all of them. Going to the gym 4x a week, eating more chicken breasts, drinking less alcohol, taking the stairs instead of the escalator, all of these things combined into real change. Maybe some of these actions were bigger factors than others, but they wouldn’t have been enough by themselves. I think that’s really what it’s all about. Not wasting effort by trying to find the one most efficient solution, but rather just going all in instead.
There are so many similarities with finding abs and finding love. Finding love is so hard, and there’s such a great demand for a simple solution. “How to find love” brings up nearly 12 billion results on Google. Like damn. People want to know what they’re not doing, and they want the easiest road for a hard journey. The answer is hardly ever clear cut and straight forward.
I’ve met some great people on dating apps before, so I really advocate that on this blog for example. However that’s just one potential piece of the puzzle, and it’s not an end-all solution to singleness. Maybe the most important thing for you is to get some new hobbies and improve yourself first. Maybe it’s something simple such as getting a new haircut. Perhaps you have to brush up on your conversational skills. Who knows? Evidently you don’t (if you’re chronically single), so don’t try to be picky with it. Love is a lifelong journey, and everything you do is fuel that propels it along. Treat it like your abs, and go all in with it.